How to Deal with Everyday Stress

 

By AARP
Oct. 11, 2009

Editor’s Note: As Americans in this tough times, we are dealing with stress on an everyday basis. We hope that this article, which first appeared in AARP. Here are some tips to deal with them. We hope you enjoy it and you will let us know what you think. dan@youngchronicle.com

 

Are you stressed? Who isn’t? At one time or another, we’re all bound to feel stress from work, family, finances, social situations, or illness. It might be the acute, short-term stress which comes from being stuck in a traffic jam or your boss confronting you at work. Or it could be chronic, long-term stress, the kind that comes from being in an unhappy marriage or taking care of a sick family member for a long time.

At times, some stress is motivating, like when it helps you win a competition or meet a deadline. But we mostly think of stress as a negative or uncomfortable feeling that we associate with sweaty palms, a racing heart, and feeling out of control.

Different things can trigger stress in different people. Planning a big house party or having to give a speech might delight you but totally unnerve a friend.

How you respond to stressful situations depends on several things, including:

• Your view of the situation — how bad is this? Can you get through it?
• Your general outlook on life — do you tend to be more positive or negative?
• Your general health and well-being — Are you well-rested or sleep-deprived? Do you have a healthy diet or live on junk food? Do you get enough exercise or is there never enough time to fit it in? Are you healthy overall or do you have chronic health problems?

Many people who never seem to get stressed have learned to cope successfully with stressful situations.

Stress Affects Your Health

Any stress that keeps occurring can lead to getting sick more often; problems concentrating, sleeping and eating; high blood pressure and heart disease; and anxiety and depression. In other words, left alone stress can be bad for both your physical and mental health.

That’s why you want to get control of your stress before it gets control of you. The time and energy you spend managing your stress will pay off in the long run by promoting health and happiness. Here are five steps to help you get started.

 

Steps to Less Stress

Make a list. Think of the things that cause you the most stress. Write them down, along with the level of stress they cause (off the charts versus a great deal) and how they affect you (keep you awake at night, make you feel shaky inside, etc).

 

Take control. Decide which things on your list you can do something about. Remember that you might not be able to control everything on your list. For instance, your children leaving home or traffic jams are the trying parts of life. Even though you can’t control these events, you can control how you react to them. Instead of getting worked up during morning rush hour traffic, use the time in your car to listen to a book on tape. Even small changes can make a difference and help you feel more in control of your life. Try one or two of these suggestions:

• Assign some of your household chores to other family members.
• Sign up for community services to help you care for a sick parent.
• Start planning early for the holidays — create a budget and stick to it.

 

Unload and learn to say no. If there are things at home or at work that you just can’t or don’t want to do, let them go — cross them off your list if you can. And don’t commit to new things just because you feel you have to. Say “no” to that new project if you already have too many duties at work. Let someone else run the church bazaar this year.

 

Practice. Saying no might feel uncomfortable at first. But taking on too much and failing is more stressful than “passing” on a request in the first place. Work on shedding the “perfection impulse.” Don’t expect perfection from yourself or others. For some things, an okay job is just fine.

 

Set limits. The key to setting limits is to set priorities first. Decide what is most important for your family and you, and set time aside for those things, such as family meals, fun time, or retirement planning. For everything that falls outside your priority list, ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that would happen if I didn’t do this?” If you can live with the answer then drop it from your ‘to do’ list.

Learning to manage the stress in your life can help you live healthier and happier; enjoy your job, family, and friends more; and focus your energies on the things that really count.

 

Source: Grandparents