Medal of Honor Recipient – Civil War Veteran 1st Lt. Alonzo Cushing

May 19, 2010 by  
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medal of honorBy Dan Samaria
Publisher/YC

May 19, 2010

Each week : We at the Chronicle will be honoring one of these true heroes.

We will call it Medal of Honor Recipient of the Week.

We hope you will join with us to honor these true heroes. Who have given us the greatest sacrifice that one could give their life, to save their fellow soldiers?

We would like to know what you think. dan@goldcoastchronicle.com

This Week’s Hero: Civil War Veteran 1st Lt. Alonzo Cushing

 

 

 

by Dinesh Ramde

DELAFIELD, Wis. – Seven score and seven years ago, a wounded Wisconsin soldier stood his ground on the Gettysburg battlefield and made a valiant stand before he was felled by a Confederate bullet.

Now, thanks to the dogged efforts of modern-day supporters, 1st Lt. Alonzo Cushing shall not have died in vain, nor shall his memory have perished from the earth.

Descendants and some Civil War history buffs have been pushing the U.S. Army to award the soldier the Medal of Honor, the nation’s highest military decoration. They’ll soon get their wish.

Secretary of the Army John McHugh has approved their request, leaving a few formal steps before the award becomes official this summer. Cushing will become one of 3,447 recipients of the medal, and the second from the Civil War honored in the last 10 years.

It’s an honor that’s 147 years overdue, said Margaret Zerwekh. The 90-year-old woman lives on the land in Delafield where Cushing was born, and jokes she’s been adopted by the Cushing family for her efforts to see Alonzo recognized.

“I was jumping up and down when I heard it was approved,” said Zerwekh, who walks with two canes. “I was terribly excited.”

Cushing died on July 3, 1863, the last day of the three-day battle of Gettysburg. He was 22.

The West Point graduate and his men of the Battery A, 4th U.S. Artillery were defending the Union position on Cemetery Ridge against Pickett’s Charge, a major Confederate thrust that could have turned the tide in the war.

Confederate Gen. Robert E. Lee was planning an invasion of the North; both sides knew how important this engagement was.

Cushing commanded about 110 men and six cannons. His small force along with reinforcements stood their ground under artillery bombardment as nearly 13,000 Confederate infantrymen waited to advance.

“Clap your hands as fast as you can — that’s as fast as the shells are coming in,” said Scott Hartwig, a historian with the Gettysburg National Military Park in Pennsylvania. “They were under terrific fire.”

The bombardment lasted two hours. Cushing was wounded in the shoulder and groin, and his battery was left with two guns and no long-range ammunition. His stricken battery should have been withdrawn and replaced with reserve forces, Hartwig said, but Cushing shouted that he would take his guns to the front lines.

“What that means is, ‘While I’ve got a man left to fight, I’ll fight,'” Hartwig said. Within minutes, he was killed by a Confederate bullet to the head.

Confederate soldiers advanced into the Union fire, but finally retreated with massive casualties. The South never recovered from the defeat.

The soldier’s bravery so inspired one Civil War history buff that he took up Cushing’s cause by launching a Facebook page titled “Give Alonzo Cushing the Medal of Honor.”

Phil Shapiro, a 27-year-old Air Force captain, said such heroism displayed in one of the nation’s most pivotal battles deserved recognition, even at this late date.

“We need to honor those people who got our country to where it is,” said Shapiro, of Cabot, Ark.

Zerwekh first started campaigning for Cushing in 1987 by writing to Wisconsin Sen. William Proxmire.

Proxmire entered comments into the Congressional Record, she said, and she assumed that was as far as it would go. But current Sen. Russ Feingold later pitched in and helped Zerwekh and others petition the Army.

After a lengthy review of historical records, the Army agreed earlier this year to recommend the medal.

More than 1,500 soldiers from the Civil War have received the Medal of Honor, according to the Defense Department. The last honoree for Civil War service was Cpl. Andrew Jackson Smith of Clinton, Ill., who received the medal in 2001.

The Cushing name is prominent in the southeastern Wisconsin town of Delafield. A monument to Cushing and two of his brothers — Naval Cmdr. William Cushing and Army 1st Lt. Howard Cushing — stands at Cushing Memorial Park, where the town holds most of its Memorial Day celebrations.

Shapiro, the Facebook fan, said he thought of Alonzo Cushing plenty of times last year as he faced a number of dangerous situations during a five-month stint in Iraq.

“I’d think about what Cushing accomplished, what he was able to deal with at age 22,” Shapiro said. “I thought if he could do that then I can certainly deal with whatever I’m facing.”

 

 

Source: Yahoo News            CMHS

Hero of the Week – Wal-Mart Feeding American Families

May 17, 2010 by  
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hometown heroBy Dan Samaria
Publisher/YC
May 17, 2010

Editor’s Note: Each Week we will be Honoring people or groups that are making a difference in helping others especially during this tough times in America.

When we as Americans are put through a test, we come out in flying colors on the other side.

We would like to know what you think. And if you know someone or group that we can Honor. You can contact us at  dan@goldcoastchronicle.com

This week we will be honoring: Wal-Mart.  Here is his story:

 

 

  

By Emily Fredrix
AP

NEW YORK (AP) — Wal-Mart Stores Inc. plans to significantly ramp up its donations to the nation’s food banks to total $2 billion over the next five years, the retail giant said Wednesday.

The company is more than doubling its annual rate of giving as the number of Americans receiving food stamps has risen to one in eight, and food banks are straining to meet demand.

Wal-Mart’s plan comes in two parts:

At least $250 million in grants over five years will go to efforts such as buying refrigerated trucks, which help fruits, vegetables and meat last longer to make it from store to charity, and programs to feed children during the summer when they’re not in school and receiving government meals.

But the bulk of the donations will consist of more than 1.1 billion pounds of food that doesn’t sell or can’t be sold because it’s close to expiration dates, for example.

About half will be fresh fruit, vegetables, dairy and meat — items that food banks say they’re seeing more demand for.

The company estimates the food will provide 1 billion meals. Store employees will even offer assistance to food banks to help run their operations more efficiently.

The move extends Wal-Mart’s sharp increases in donations in recent years.

In 2009, the company spent $21 million on hunger relief and donated 116.1 million pounds of food, up from $12 million in cash and 42.7 million pounds of food in 2008.

The donations may also represent Wal-Mart playing a bit of catch-up with other grocers.

The nation’s second-largest supermarket chain, Kroger Co., donated 50 million pounds of food in 2009.

Certainly, Wal-Mart’s donations are small compared with the rising need. Some 39.7 million people received food stamps in February, an increase of 22 percent from the same month last year.

Wal-Mart’s donation would be enough to feed everyone now on food stamps only about five meals a year.

“As we laid out the case for need over the last couple of years, I think it became clear that this was something that Wal-Mart, as the largest grocer in the country, needed and wanted to do,” Wal-Mart Foundation President Margaret McKenna said in an interview.

St. Mary’s Food Bank in Phoenix, Ariz., has nearly doubled the amount of food it distributes in two years to keep up with the rising need.

First-timers are easy to spot, said St. Mary’s Food Bank President Terry Shannon.

“They walk in the door, their eyes are down on the ground. They’re embarassed to be there.

They don’t know what else to do,” said Shannon, who will help make the announcement at a news conference in Washington on Wednesday.

The food bank now picks up about 1,000 pounds of food per week from each of 53 area Walmart and Sam’s Club stores.

Wal-Mart also plans to use its logistics expertise to help food banks operate on a larger scale and run more efficiently.

Company experts will help food banks make tweaks such as installing heavier shelving to hold more food or set up their locations more like stores so they are easier to navigate, McKenna said.

Although there are signs of economic recovery as companies make more profits and the stock market rebounds, job creation is still weak.

That means needs will remain high, said Vicki Escarra, CEO of Feeding America, the nation’s largest hunger relief charity.

“I think people are recognizing as recovery takes place, middle-income jobs are becoming more and more scarce, and so I think this is certainly a crisis in America,” she said.

Wal-Mart has been one of the country’s biggest corporate givers for at least the past decade, but the $2 billion commitment is a “huge gift,” said Steven Lawrence, director of research at the Foundation Center, a national authority on philanthropy.

 Food assistance typically goes overseas, so this announcement could inspire more foundations and companies to shift priorities.

“I think it’s sending a message to the grant-making community and to the world that the economic crisis is not over,” he said.

 

Source:  Yahoo News

 

Jupiter Loses Some Rings

May 17, 2010 by  
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jupiterBy Fox Nation
May 17, 2010

Jupiter has lost one of its iconic red stripes and scientists are baffled as to why.
 
The largest planet in our solar system is usually dominated by two dark bands in its atmosphere, with one in the northern hemisphere and one in the southern hemisphere.
 
However, the most recent images taken by amateur astronomers have revealed the lower stripe known as the Southern Equatorial Belt has disappeared leaving the southern half of the planet looking unusually bare.
 
The band was present in at the end of last year before Jupiter ducked behind the Sun on its orbit.

However, when it emerged three months later the belt had disappeared.

 

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Source: Fox Nation

 

 

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Schools Pulls Obama Painting

May 15, 2010 by  
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communist_obamaBy Fox Nation
May 13, 2010

HALLSVILLE — Art teacher Brittany Williamson said her student simply wanted to “get a reaction” with his painting that depicted President Barack Obama with a hammer and sickle symbolizing communism.
 
“That’s the whole purpose of art — to get a reaction,” Williamson said.
 
Although Williamson thought the Hallsville High School sophomore’s painting was “an amazing piece,” it received not-so-amazing critiques from some school staff and visitors who complained to Williamson and Superintendent John Robertson.

The painting was taken down Monday after being displayed for nearly two weeks.
 
Robertson said the piece was removed because it could have been construed to reflect an official position of the school district.

 

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Source: Fox Nation

 

 

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Armed Forces Day

May 15, 2010 by  
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dr lauraBy Dr. Laura
May 15, 2010

I can no other answer make, but, thanks, and thanks.
               – William Shakespeare
                  from Twelfth Night (Act III, Scene ii)

  

Today is Armed Forces Day.  Thank a man or woman in uniform for their service to our nation.

 

 

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Source: Dr Laura

 

 

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Palin Upset with School for AZ Boycott

May 13, 2010 by  
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Palin_teamBy Fox Nation
May 13, 2010

Sarah Palin took on officials of an Illinois high school for canceling a trip to Arizona by its girls’ basketball team because of the controversial new immigration law.

She also maintained her support for oil drilling despite the massive spill in the Gulf of Mexico.
 
“Keeping the girls’ basketball team off the court for political reasons?

Those are fighting words,” the former Alaska governor and GOP vice presidential candidate said during a speech Wednesday in Rosemont, Ill., a Chicago suburb.

Noting that Highland Park High School has allowed student trips to China, Palin asked whether school officials know “how they treat women in China.”
 
School officials said the Arizona immigration law that makes it a crime to be in the country illegally and requires police to check the immigration status of suspects was not “aligned with our beliefs and values.”
 
Palin encouraged the team to defy authority.
 
“Go rogue, girls,” she said, playing off the title of her book about being John McCain’s running mate in 2008.

On the campaign trail, fans often greeted her with, “Drill, baby, drill” to signal their agreement with her support for aggressive oil exploration.
 
On Wednesday night, Palin maintained that support but said oil companies must be held accountable through strict standards.
 
ALSO:
 
Highland Park High School Scraps Team Trip to Arizona
 
Illinois School Nixes Basketball Team’s Trip to Arizona over Immigration Law

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Source: Fox Nation

 

 

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Photo ID for Your Child Is Urgent

May 12, 2010 by  
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missingkids logoBy MEC
May 12, 2010

One of the most important tools for law enforcement to use in the case of a missing child is an up-to-date, good-quality photograph.

Noted below are some tips for parents and guardians regarding such a photograph?

 

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  • The photograph should be a recent, head-and-shoulders color photograph of the child in which the face is clearly seen. It should be of “school-portrait” quality, and the background should be plain or solid so it does not distract from the subject.

 

  • When possible the photograph should be in a digitized form, and available on a compact disk (CD), as opposed to just a hard copy. This minimizes the time necessary to scan, resize, and make color corrects before disseminating it to law enforcement.

 

  • The photograph should be an accurate depiction of the child, not overly posed or “glamorized.” Nor should other people, animals, or objects be in the photograph. The photograph should not be taken outside, out of focus, torn, damaged, or very small.

 

  • The photograph should have space for accurate, narrative description useful to identify the child such as name, nickname, height, weight, sex, age, eye color, identifying marks, glasses, and braces.

 

  • The photograph should be updated at least every six months for children 6 years of age or younger and then once a year, or when a child’s appearance changes.

 

  • All copies of child’s photograph and information should be maintained in an easily accessible, secure space by the parents or guardian. The photograph and data should not be stored in a public database.

 

Download the Best Practices Guide for Child ID Kits

 

Source: Missing Kids

 

 

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Americans Sung ‘God Bless America’ at Randolph School in Huntsville, Alabama

May 12, 2010 by  
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randolphschool4(2)By Hank Richards
GCC/Staff
May12, 2010

It’s an extreme pleasure to dial a published telephone number and reach the person in charge of an organization on the first attempt.

This actually happened on grandparent’s day last Friday when I called Dr. Byron C. Hulsey, the Headmaster at the Randolph School, in Huntsville, Alabama.

Randolph School began its mission in 1959 with a handful of elementary classes in an antebellum home.

Within a few short years, the school relocated to a spacious 17-acre campus with a mission that complimented the Huntsville industries in U.S. missile defense, rockets and space age technology at the Redstone Arsenal, home of the Marshall Space Flight Center (NASA).

Numerous scientists and engineers, including the legendary space pioneer Dr. Wernher von Braun, sent their children to Randolph.

The school’s rigorous college preparatory curriculum and successful alumni rapidly attracted Huntsville’s business community.

In 1981, a local Fortune 500 company donated a computer lab, one of the first of its kind in a high school setting and in 1998, Randolph attracted national attention for successfully integrating laptop computers and a wireless network into their classroom structure.

Randolph School is listed as an IBM reference site for its outstanding technology program and has received national accolades as a Blue Ribbon School of Excellence.

headmasterThe school is directed by Dr. Byron C. Hulsey, the man who answers his own telephone while managing a $12 million annual budget.

Hulsey has enjoyed an accomplished academic career. He is a graduate of the Woodberry Forest School in Virginia, having earned his B.A. degree from the University of Virginia in 1990, where he received the prestigious Jefferson Scholarship.

Being a Texas native, he went on to earn both, an M.A. and Ph.D. degrees from the University of Texas in Austin where he was a Patterson-Banister Fellow in American History.

In the summer of 2006, he moved to Huntsville, Alabama to begin work as Randolph’s Head of School. He and his wife, Jennifer, have two children.

When asked by Richards to explain the success of the Randolph education model, Hulsey replied, ‘we emphasize honor, integrity and character and demand discipline and diligence . . . I feel gratified that Randolph is a safe place; by a safe place I mean it’s safe to embrace opportunities and perhaps to be disappointed at times but safe enough to offer an academic environment where our children can achieve success in arts and athletics and engage in those opportunities that commit to overall excellence; safe enough to have the support of a hands-on community and proactive faculty who believe in the values at Randolph that contribute to unparalleled personal growth.’

One of Hulsey’s many tasks include setting aside a unique day in the spring each year for grandparents and special friends of the K-4 classes to visit the school.

The guests are treated to programs that feature musical selections presented with hand chimes, a variety of songs that include ‘God Bless America’, classroom visits with student demonstrations and a picnic lunch on the south lawn of the campus.

With this year’s exhibit, each classroom demonstrated its learning accomplishments using group projects such as a life-cycle by actually hatching baby chicks in school; presenting the world of computer photo graphics of a class in progress in real-time and so much more.

Approximately 600 people turned out for the celebration that concluded with a picnic lunch under the shade trees on the south lawn of the campus.

The guests found the students receptive when demonstrating the advantages of attending a school with a student/ teacher ratio of approximately 10 to 1.

Randolph’s faculty strives to help students become young men and women of character who are self-motivated, intellectually curious and articulate, characteristics necessary to become responsible decision-makers.

Randolph, the only independent college prep school in North Alabama, has been twice named a National School of Excellence by the U.S. Department of Education and is accredited by the Southern Association of Colleges and Schools (SACS).

 

 

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For more information view the school website at www.randolphschool.net. To schedule a campus tour or to learn more about Randolph, contact Glynn Below, Director of Admissions, at (256) 799-6103 or   e-mail the Admissions Office .

 

Source: Examiner

  

  

Editor’s Note: Contact Hank Richards by email at editor@pronlinenews.com or call him at (256) 417-6084. 

Richards is a prostate cancer survivor and a nationwide public speaker on the issue. If you would like to schedule him for your speaking venue, call the listed number above.

We would like to know what you think. dan@goldcoastchronicle.com

Mother and Daughter Tale

May 9, 2010 by  
Filed under Parent's Advice

red roseBy Aliza Davidovit  
YC/STaff
May 9, 2010

This blog is a personal story and dedicated to my mother for Mother’s Day.

“The foot bone connected to the leg bone, the leg bone connected to the knee bone, the knee bone connected to the” femur bone, the femur bone connected to the pelvic bone.

Let me know when you’ve stopped singing.

The femur bone, also called the thighbone, as you may know, is the longest, largest, and strongest bone in the body.

It’s an unusual thing to think of for a daughter, but my mother reminds me of a femur bone because it’s her strength of character alone and continued support and love that gives everyone close to her a leg to stand on.

 She is like an indomitable scaffold that sustains our courage and our family through the hardest of times.

There is not a thing upon which she lays her hands that she does not transform from average to beautiful–from décor, cooking, fashion, to extracting an individual’s full potential. Even death she made beautiful for my father.

After the doctors told us that he had six more months to live, she didn’t leave him to their care but rather took care of him at home, herself, and decorated the remaining days of his life with music, love, and laughter until the angel of death closed his big blue eyes.

My parents were deeply in love for 38 years, like Romeo and Juliet. My mother would visit his grave every day for five years straight after he passed away. But I will never forget the night my father died in their bed.

Through her sobbing tears, my mother went to blow dry her hair because the funeral was the next day.

She said to us that my father loved seeing her look beautiful and even after having lost her parents, a daughter, a sister, and now her beloved sweetheart, she would not allow death to triumph over life.

We all looked at her in awe. She was our femur that kept it all together just as that durable bone brings the upper and lower half of the body together.

But life’s a bitch and even as you try and put your best femured foot forward it can ravage you. A few years ago, my sprightly, energetic mother got out of bed one morning and five steps later found herself lying on the floor in screaming agony. It took her three hours to reach the phone.

She called my brother, and being the superhuman body builder that he is, he beat the ambulance and broke down her five inch wooden doors with his own hands. I got the phone call in New York.

I was on the next plane to Montreal. My mother’s complete femur bone was broken, eaten up by lymphoma. My beautiful mother, my best friend who I speak to a thousand times a day–I was not ready to say goodbye. I never will be.

I had just signed a deal to ghostwrite a book on Jewish success, but instead of heading to the library I found myself sleeping on a lawn chair in my mother’s hospital room for three weeks and then staying in Montreal for the next five months caring for her and her toy French poodle, Papoush.

It was excruciating for me to see my mother that way. She was always so independent, coming and going, and now she had to go through chemo and learn to walk all over again with titanium filled leg. She was my rock but now I had to become her femur.

Yet even in the hospital, my mother wouldn’t surrender and refused to wear their hospital gowns or use their bed linens.

She may be the only patient in the history of the oncology department who had a chiffon beaded nightgown and 700-thread sheets.

It was the hardest thing that we ever went through. Even the dog fell into a depression during that difficult time. Yet, I found strength in myself that I never knew I had.

That strength was shaped like my mother. I have never met a person whose presence brings such light into any room as does hers.

That light continues to guide my way. As we went through MRIs, surgery, chemotherapy, hair loss and rehabilitation, I was empowered by all the times in life I saw her fight instead of fall. I’d sing to my mother to distract her from her nerves and would make all the technicians and doctors laugh with my terrible voice.

At my mother’s bedside, I wrote a book, nurtured her and her French poodle back to health, found the power of laughter, and realized that I stood in the shadow of the greatest role model a daughter could ever have.

But most of all I learned how deep, special, and strong are the bonds of a mother, a daughter, and a French poodle. The femur bone had nothing on us.

On this Mother’s Day, I just want to thank God for the great blessing of a having a mother like mine, a mother who has taken so many lost souls under her wing and taught them to fly, a mother whose honesty will criticize you into perfection not weakness, a mother who has surely done God’s work, when He was busy elsewhere.

 

Source: The Source Weekly

 

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Teen Connection on Mother’s Day

May 9, 2010 by  
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1001851786By Tracey Jackson
May 9, 2010

Why are there so many closed doors in our house?
Who’s on the other side?
Teenagers are allusive
they’re always avoiding
Why do they feel they must hide?
Though we’ve been told someday they’ll
out grow it
we’ll have to just wait and see
Someday we’ll find it
The Teenage Connection
My child, my heartbeat and me

 

Now I just took some serious liberties with my friend Paul Williams’ amazing song The Rainbow Connection.

But being that this blog is for the Partnership for Drug-Free America and the fact that he is so involved in the sobriety movement, he won’t care.

Today  is Mother’s Day, which means mothers are being paid attention to whether the attention givers really want to or not.

Families are taking Grandma out to brunch despite the fact that she may aggressively quiz them about hair length, tattoos, drug experimentation and love choices.

Mothers are being given breakfast in bed, handmade cards and if Zale’s has their way, lots of diamonds.

Even teenagers are venturing out of their caves (a.k.a. their rooms) with a few if not cheery, hopefully coherent words of affection and appreciation — though they may be simultaneously texting as they recite them.

And then the whole family will sit through a meal, though the teens may be texting while eating. 

Yet they are honoring mom despite the fact they might not have spoken more than seven full sentences to her in the last week.

Mind you this is not all kids nor is it all families. Some are better and some are much worse. 

But the average teenager is about as interested in interacting with their parents as Obama is in becoming a Birthed.

It often starts around 13, when they pretend they don’t know you in public — unless of course your credit card is on its way out of your wallet and headed in their direction. 

And pretty much everything you say – unless it is “yes” to an unreasonable request– is considered lame.

By 15 their rooms are their sanctuaries and often times its Enter at Your Own Risk, or just plain Stay Away.

When you do enter and attempt a “normal” conversation that could start with something as simple as “Do you have much homework?” you get volleyed back, “Why do you always have to tell me what to do? I can run my own life!”

Psychologists talk about their frontal lobes being underdeveloped; I feel like their ears have some filter system in place where every phrase uttered by a parent is turned into an insult.

“It’s cold out today, you might want a sweater” is met with an angry, “Why do you have to be so controlling?”

At this point when connections are not happening everything feels misinterpreted and an air of alienation hangs over the family.

This is a very frustrating period for both parents and kids. They are branching out and carving their independence and usually without much regard for our feelings: they have to do it, but it’s not easy for us to watch the person we knew disappear like a ghost.

Consequently we end up either confronting them with what we perceive to be (and often is) their rudeness, which only escalates into more rudeness and more shutting down or we go off, tail between our legs to lick our wounded feelings in silence, and stew.

What I found has worked the best in our house is when Taylor gives me the vibe that she is in a bad, introspective, or a I-want-to-be-left-alone mood, I just leave her be.

I learned to respect her need to be away from not just me, but all authority figures, and many people. 

This means not taking it personally — not an easy thing for me to do — but I find when I do this, she somehow gets that I am acknowledging her individuation from me.

By not taking it personally, she does not become defensive.

By my ignoring her and doing my own thing, she eventually reappears on her time, in her way, and the space is then free for connection.

Try not to ask “What’s wrong? 

What happened?

Are you in a bad mood? 

 Why aren’t you talking to me?” 

 This gets the door slammed faster than almost anything.

If I want to connect yet feel the wall being erected, I will tell her about something that happened to me that day, something rather banal that is not full of subtext.

Even something as benign as “I got my hair cut today” might be met with “You hate my hair! Why are you always judging me?”

Today I found the prettiest flowers at the market. Today I read a funny article online.

Say something upbeat, not about them, neutral and not open for misinterpretation.

Be in the moment, it’s usually where they are most of the time.   “When I was your age I felt…“is heard as a lecture. 

All you will get back is “I don’t need a lecture.” Slam.

The other thing that I have found really works is to do nothing but just be there. It’s hard, as parents we want to connect – we miss that little koala bear attached to our hip, and truth be told they miss it too which is partially why they are so aggressive at times.

They want you and don’t want you and hate the fact they want you and hate the fact they need you while they don’t want to need you.

So when I’m feeling that way, I sometimes just go in her room — after I ask if it’s OK; privacy is everything at this age.  

I bring my laptop and just hang out with her; saying nothing, just being there, amusing myself and asking for nothing in return from her. 

I’m giving her the message that I’m here if you want me, we don’t have to talk. Then the most amazing thing happens — she starts chatting up a storm.

We’re connecting because I haven’t demanded it. And when that happens, it feels like Mother’s Day no matter what day it is.

The good news is: it is a phase and they do come out of it.  And from what I hear, you get years of laughs and jokes at everybody’s expense – especially on the holidays.

 

Happy Mother’s Day!

 

Source: Drug Free

 

 

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