You’re Making Your Child Fat

By Jennifer Gruenemay
Special to Lifescript
Sept. 27, 2009

Let’s face it: It’s tough to get kids to eat healthy foods when they’re screaming for fries or ice cream. But more than 12.5 million U.S. children are overweight and face chronic disease ahead. Are you setting your child up for trouble? Read on for the 10 biggest food mistakes parents make…

Today’s parents are up against the biggest food fight of any previous generation.

Everywhere you look, more junk foods and sugary drinks are available to our children, and there are more kid-targeted food commercials on TV.

“The No. 1 ‘vegetable’ the average 18-month-old consumes in the U.S. is French fries,” says Christina Schmidt, M.S., a certified nutrition educator and author of The Baby Bistro and The Toddler Bistro (Bull Publishing Co.).

What’s worse: Many parents don’t see a problem.

“Parents don’t get it,” says William H. Dietz, M.D., director of the Division of Nutrition, Physical Activity and Obesity at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Only 42% of parents cite childhood obesity as a health concern, according to the 2007 National Poll on Children’s Health by C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital.

Why?

Some don’t know the nutritional content of the food they serve. Others don’t want to be the “bad guy” and force fruits and veggies on finicky eaters.

Yet childhood obesity can shorten life expectancy by up to five years and lead to heart disease, type 2 diabetes and some cancers, Dietz says.

A recent study in the International Journal of Pediatric Obesity also found that obese children with big bellies are at greater risk for future heart problems.

“Seventy percent of obese children today already have one cardiovascular risk factor, such as elevated blood pressure,” Dietz says.

What’s fueling this obesity epidemic? Not enough exercise, for one. Plus, too much face time with TVs and computers, which experts say are linked.

As a result of this media overload, children ask for foods they see in ads, Dietz says.

That’s why parents have to step in.

“No matter how strong outside influences are, what we do at home is stronger,” says Nancy Tringali Piho, author of My Two-Year-Old Eats Octopus: Raising Children Who Love to Eat Everything (Bull Publishing Co.).

 

Here are 10 mistakes parents make when feeding kids:

 

1. Deferring authority.
“Don’t ask your child what he’d like to eat,” Dietz advises. They’ll say “gummy worms” or “ice cream.”

Instead, tell them what’s on the menu and that there will be no substitutions.

“Parents have to remember they’re parents,” says chef Ann Cooper, author of Lunch Lessons: Changing the Way We Feed Our Children (Collins Living). Your job is to provide nourishing foods; your child’s role is to eat them and reap the nutritional benefits.

 

2. Offering too many choices.
Making hot dogs for one kid, mac ‘n’ cheese for another and a “grown-up” meal for Mom and Dad will drive a home cook crazy.

“Parents shouldn’t be running short-order restaurants,” Cooper says. Plan one menu for the entire family.

But ask your children for their opinion. Broccoli or green beans? Or serve them both.

“Offering two or three choices of a fruit or vegetable encourages kids to try at least one of them,” says Baby Bistro author Schmidt.

 

3. Not setting limits.
The worst thing for a child is not knowing the limits or having ones that constantly change, Dietz says.

Every kid needs boundaries, so stand your ground when it comes to what your child eats. If on Monday you proclaim “no fast food,” don’t go to Burger King on Friday. It sends mixed messages and kids quickly pick up on that ambiguity.

Also, don’t set limits you can’t — and shouldn’t — keep, like banning all foods with sugar. There’s just no way around a little sweet stuff in a kid’s life — and there shouldn’t have to be.

Experts agree: “Everything in moderation.”

Even after you’ve set boundaries, expect them to be tested — repeatedly. Just stand your ground.

 

4. Underestimating kids’ willingness to eat an assortment.
“One mistake parents make is not exposing [their kids] to a wide variety of foods and flavors from an early age,” Tringali Piho says.

Start small and build on each success. Forgo the white-bread PB&J; offer up cucumber and hummus on whole wheat instead. Your kid’s taste buds might surprise you both.

Also, make learning about new chow a game. Let your children discover a new food – through books, the Internet or from friends. Then help them prepare it.

“Kids love to be hands-on with everything they’re learning,” Schmidt says. The more they’re involved, the more likely they are to eat happily.

 

5. Worrying they’ll go to bed hungry.
Hunger can be a persuasive learning tool. Next time your children refuse to eat what you’ve prepared, tell them: “The choices are to eat it now, later or nothing at all,” Schmidt says.

“Unless children learn that they’ll be hungry if they don’t eat, they won’t learn to eat what’s offered,” Dietz says.

If your children push away the food, be matter-of-fact about it, he says. Simply put the plate aside, so they can eat it later.

This may be harder on parents. It’s never fun to watch your children cry and scream. And you don’t want them to go to bed hungry.

But they’ll learn to make a better choice next time: I guess I’ll just eat the salmon patty. Hey, this tastes kind of good!

 

6. Making excuses for their eating habits.
“If kids are labeled as picky, they’ll act that way,” Schmidt says.

Instead, be persistent. Offer up the despised foods as many times and in as many forms as possible. Broccoli hater? Try it steamed, roasted, baked in a quiche, chopped up with a low-fat dip or served with veggie sticks.

 

7. Worrying that they’re not eating enough.
When a child has consumed only three graham crackers all day, it can drive a parent to force them to eat.

The strategy will backfire, Dietz says.

“There’s no quicker way to get a child not to eat than by forcing him or her to eat,” he says.

Even if your child has barely touched food all day, don’t worry.

“Children regulate their nutrition intake surprisingly well,” Schmidt says.

They learn to recognize their natural hunger and satiety cues. “Forcing them to eat destroys these healthy instincts.”

Children go through natural periods of eating very little or eating more than you’d expect. It’s normal and linked to their growth cycles. But if you’re concerned, talk to your pediatrician about whether a multivitamin will provide the nutrition they need.

 

8. Always disguising healthy foods.
Would you recognize zucchini if it showed up only in muffins or cookies? Sneaking extra veggies into prepared products isn’t bad, but it’s important to offer them in their natural state too.

“If we keep those green veggies under wraps all the time, children will never choose them in their true [form],” Schmidt says.

Get to the root of the situation – literally.

“If we want to change children’s relationship to food, we have to get kids involved in cooking, gardening and grocery shopping,” Cooper says.

Grow veggies in a garden pot or plot. Or go to a nearby you-pick-it farm. When children see where food comes from and help get it from farm to table, they’ll appreciate it more.

It helps instill a sense of ownership in what they’re eating – “I picked that strawberry!” or “I grew that tomato!”

 

9. Offering rewards or bribes for eating.
Bribery is another trick nearly every parent uses – but shouldn’t.

“Don’t reward children for eating foods they don’t like by giving them junk foods,” Dietz says. That means not dishing out ice cream because they’ve finished the spinach.

Sure, you’re enticing kids to eat the good stuff, but it will just make mealtime more difficult for you. Before long, they’ll be bribing you with, “I’ll only eat it if I can have a sno-cone!”

 

10. Giving up too soon.
“Parents need to repeatedly introduce new food before accepting that their child doesn’t like it,” Dietz says.

A scrunched-up face or barfing noise doesn’t mean game over.

“It takes eight to 15 times for a child to accept a new food,” Schmidt says.

Most parents give up after two or three tries.

Vary your approach and be creative with presentation, Schmidt suggests. Cut foods into fun shapes (like zucchini stars), make mini versions of their favorites or call foods by nicknames.

Finally, don’t expect good eating habits to be a piece of cake.

“‘Success’ is not defined as ‘no conflict,’” Tringali Piho says. “No one ever said it will be easy!” 

 

Are You Making Your Child Fat?
Are you in control of your child’s healthy eating habits, or could your parenting style be making your child fat? Take this quiz to find out.

Check out Health Bistro for more healthy food for thought. See what Lifescript editors are talking about and get the skinny on latest news. Share it with your friends (it’s free to sign up!), and bookmark it so you don’t miss a single juicy post!

Do you have a friend or family member who battled breast cancer? We want to feature your loved one on our site! Send a picture of your loved one to editorial@lifescript.com.

Source: Lifescript

 

Editor’s Note: We would like to know what you think. dan@youngchronicle.com